“We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea.” – C. Joybell C.
My pet snake Reggie knows a thing or two about change:
When he outgrows his skin, he sheds and releases it. He does not fret about this change; he simply does it, because he has outgrown the old one.
There’s an idea floating around the internet that humans replace all the cells in our bodies every 7 years— not to be a joykill, but it’s not actually true. So, we have a lot to learn from the way our snake and tree friends embrace change.
“But this SUCKS.”
I won’t deny that a lot of change is painful. Whether it’s unexpected or tragic in nature, or even positive but complicated, change and transition come with a lot of layers that we have to figure out and process.
Now perhaps more than any other time in my lifetime, the world is experiencing such significant and sudden upheaval that we’re all reeling and feeling the impact of it in different ways.
Layer on top of that the personal changes and curveballs life inevitably throws at us from time to time, and you have a recipe for a very stressed-out human.
I am honored to support my clients through all kinds of transitions, such as:
- Adjusting from university partying to professional environments
- Breakups, separation, and divorce
- Confusion around identity/sense of self
- Job loss or career change/uncertainty
- Death of a loved one (human or animal)
- Sexual orientation or gender identity exploration
Growth is coming.
You’ve probably heard of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, but you may not have heard of a related concept called “Post-Traumatic Growth.” The gist is that— even from the most painful or tragic of circumstances— given the right conditions for healing, we tend to grow. Sure, we often would not have chosen the growth to happen in this way… but nonetheless, if we are open to it, we will grow as a result.
Good support, such as working with a counselor, can often be the difference between staying stuck in resentment or pain from an unwanted or unexpected change, and discovering resilience and growth in ways you wouldn’t have thought possible.
I’m here to provide a safe, non-judgmental space where you can speak openly and honestly about your experience, and receive support, compassion, and guidance (depending on what you need in your unique situation). Yes, you are smart and resilient— but you don’t have to figure this out alone.